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Tuesday, March 21, 2017

Custody Battles Suck

Raising a family is hard. Raising a blended family and trying to keep your sanity is even harder. Today is time to get real. I have talked about our blended family often (especially since it's a BIG part of this blog) but today it's time for a real-life update.



Most of you know that JC and I have been dating for over five years and we got engaged on October 26, 2016. I have a son from a previous relationship and JC has two kids from a previous relationship. We had our kids meet after a couple weeks of dating and we moved in together a couple months after. It hasn't been all sunshine and rainbows but thankfully, we hadn't been subject to all the crazy, out of control situations that other blended families seemed to face. We considered ourselves very lucky until recently.

In the State of Florida, if the parents are not legally married at the time the child is born, mothers have full legal custody of the children. I think this is a stupid, outdated law that need updating but I am not going to get into that now. A few months ago, my step-kids mom announced that she was moving to another state and taking the kids with her. Naturally, JC lost it and immediately filed for shared legal custody of the kids. He wants everything split completely 50/50. I have had no say in this decision, as it should be. In my opinion, this is between the kids mother and JC and I have stayed out of it.



Unfortunately, the kids' mother feels that I had something to do with this. She feels that this was my idea when it all stemmed from her wanting full control. I am a HUGE proponent for the whole "one big, happy family" thing. For five years, I have worked extremely hard for everyone to get along, everyone to show up to all events and we are all in this together. In my opinion, it's the only way merging families works. Recently, all my hard work has been thrown out the window and it really has me down. I see the disappointment in the kids' faces and it breaks my heart. This custody battle is slowly tearing everything apart. I mean today there was a battle over a pair of shoes. Shoes people! How ridiculous is that??

I hate custody battles. I haven't gone through one with my son's dad but I know, from this experience especially, that they are brutal. They are brutal for every party involved. You really see how selfish a person can become. As a mother myself, I want what is best for my child and actually any child. Children deserve to grow up in happy homes and have healthy relationships with those that care for them. I understand the necessities of a custody case, especially to get everything in writing but I also see the trauma that they cause children and the financial and emotional drain that it causes for everyone involved.

I really hope mediation happens soon and there is an amicable resolution. In most cases, I know this doesn't happen but I am really hoping for that in this case. I need to be able to focus on my work, my relationship and my family again.

Oh and if anyone has any helpful advice for me or anyone in my situation, please feel free to share!




Monday, March 6, 2017

Tips to Help Keep Your Home Organized

This post is sponsored through TidyLiving.com, however all opinions are mine alone. 

If you know me personally, you know that I am not the most organized person so why exactly am I writing about home organization? Well, that's because I am on a mission. I am determined to organize our home and keep it organized. I want to have a home that I am proud of, a home that doesn't stress me out when I walk through the door. Luckily, I've partnered with Tidy Living to help make that happen!


Recently, I started my spring cleaning efforts for 2017. This is that one time a year where I really take a good look at what I have and start to filter things out for donation or trash. It's incredible how much stuff we save throughout the year! After filtering, then I clean. A good deep cleaning: walls, ceilings, moving furniture, washing curtains, all of it! Once I am done cleaning, then it's time to organize what is I decided to keep. Here's where Tidy Living helps out. Tidy Living manufacturers home organization products and has been in business over 10 years. They recently launched a brand new website with all their incredible products. Their goal is to provide effective organization solutions to make home life a little easier. Some of the products that really stood out to me for my home are:

Floating Shelves. I have so much stuff everywhere, especially frames and vases that can easily be displayed on shelves. 


My kids leave their shoes EVERYWHERE! Since I am so over fighting this battle, I think having a shoe rack like this one by the door would be a great solution! 


Underbed storage to me is genius, especially for clothes we barely even wear, like sweaters. I also use them for blanket storage. I am usually one to try and keep things off the floor but storing under the bed is so very useful when you have run out of space everywhere else!


These and so many more organization products are available at tidyliving.com. Most products start at $4!!! They have been so gracious to offer a discount code to my readers so you can save even more on getting your home neat and tidy! Use code: CHANCES at checkout and you will save 10%!!

But wait, there's more! Enter below for your chance to win a set of floating shelves for your home! Giveaway ends 03/17/2017 at 9:00 p.m.!


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Monday, February 20, 2017

Make Snacking Easy With Yoplait!

This post is written by me on behalf of General Mills. All opinions are entirely my own. This shop has been compensated by Acorn Influence, Inc. and its advertiser. All opinions are mine alone. 

I hear "Can I have a snack?" from my kids more than anything else. I hear it all the time, even if they have just finished a meal, they ask for a snack. With 4 kids, I have learned to always have a snack handy. If we are out, I usually throw a bar or some fruit in my purse but if they are home or at school, you can bet they will be snacking on a Yoplait yogurt!


I grew up eating Yoplait yogurt so you know I love giving my kids Yoplait yogurt. Yogurt is a better-for-you type of snack. It's quick and convenient, not to mention that you also get 20% of your recommended daily calcium intake from that delicious cup of yogurt! I stock up on Yoplait every week while grocery shopping at Walmart. Yoplait comes in a convenient fridge pack that brings 8 cups of goodness!


You know I am a sucker for a good story and I love Yoplait's:

It all started in France in 1965 when a group of farmers from six dairy co-ops came together for a greater good. These dairy devotees saw the future and the need to get dairy to a population slowly leaving the rolling hills of farmland for the rows of suburbs and lines of urban streets. They took their French cows, taste and love for yogurt and through a quick merge of the names of the two lead co-ops Yola and Coplait – Yoplait was born.

These founders of Yoplait’s dedication to freshness and great taste has arguably made Yoplait the best-tasting yogurt in the world. And every choice made reflected that dedication –

Also, did you know that six petals in the logo represent the six original co-ops? Cute, right?

I like to give my family good food and good snacks. Yoplait uses milk sourced from co-ops that adhere to the “five freedoms” pledge for their cows - freedom from hunger; freedom from thirst and malnutrition; freedom from discomfort; freedom from pain, injury and disease; freedom from fear and distress; and freedom to engage in normal patterns of animal behavior. And Yoplait was the first leading yogurt company to source only milk produced by cows not treated with the synthetic growth hormone rBST.



Yoplait fridge packs are available in Original Strawberry/Strawberry Banana (my kid's favorite), Original Strawberry, Original Strawberry/Mixed Berry, Original Strawberry/Peach and Original Vanilla/Orange Cream.

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