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Wednesday, January 18, 2017

Waiting At The Crossroads

"First, take time to always be at the crossroads when your children are coming or going—when they leave and return from school—when they leave and return from dates—when they bring friends home. Be there at the crossroads whether your children are six or sixteen.”
-Ezra T. Benson

I am not a religious person so I had no idea who Ezra T. Benson was or where this quote came from. I heard it and fell in love with it because this is where I am right now, at a crossroads, in parenting. My kids are 11, 10 and 9 and it seems like overnight, they have grown into big kids. There are so many opinions, so many arguments and so many disagreements. I have my own opinions on how they should be raised intertwined with the very differing opinions of two other parents. Honestly, I feel like a glorified babysitter. I want to be there for my kids all the time. They expect me to be there all the time. I like to be expected to do this but it's hard with three kids going in three different directions. As overwhelming as it is, I love being a mother. 

I love being there when they are dismissed from school.

I love answering all the questions.

I love finding out the latest gossip about who did what.

I love knowing that they have someone there guiding them with homework.

I love seeing the happy smiles when they ace a test.

I love being there during the heartaches that come with developing friendships. 

I love shuttling them to all their extracurricular activities. 

I love being there when they nail the song they have been practicing.

I love being there when they shave a second off of their freestyle.

I love knowing that they feel secure because I am always around. 

I love being there. Just there. 

I have chosen to be a mother. I have chosen to be a step-mother. I have chosen all the insane amounts of worry that comes with these responsibilities.  I want to be able to do this until they are ready to go out on their own. I don't love the arguing and the headaches but it comes with parenting. I want to be able to do all of this again. I hope to one day be able to have more children. I am leaving it up to fate. 

I am at a crossroads and I am choosing to grow along with my children. I choose to be around as much as possible, even when they don't really want me to be around. They know I will always be there for them. They can count on me!

Monday, January 16, 2017

Sesame Street: K is for Kindness Tour

Disclosure: This is a sponsored post. However, all opinions are mine alone.

"Can you tell me how to get to Sesame Street?"  Every time I hear that song, I have fond memories of my kids enjoying learning with Big Bird and friends. It was such an amazing time in their childhood. Big Bird, Abby Cadabby and Cookie Monster were part of the family. If Sesame Street is currently a favorite in your home, then I have amazing news for you! Our favorite Sesame Street friends are going on tour!

Sesame Street: K is for Kindness Tour is coming to a mall near you! Sesame Street: K is for Kind­ness Tour, a free, multi-city experiential tour timed to and inspired by the new, 47th sea­son of Sesame Street, the gold stan­dard in children’s tele­vi­sion. Cre­at­ed espe­cial­ly for preschool fans and their fam­i­lies, this immer­sive, lim­it­ed-engage­ment tour fea­tures hands-on dig­i­tal learn­ing fun, participation from local libraries in each community including bilingual Eng­lish / Span­ish books and activities, “meet and greets” with the cos­tumed char­ac­ters, a 15-min­ute interactive live stage show starring walk-around versions of the series’ beloved characters Elmo and Abby Cad­ab­by, and oth­er spe­cial sur­pris­es!

"In keeping with the Sesame Street mission, the K is for Kindness Tour aims to spark imagination, inspire a love of reading, cultivate kindness, and provide an element of surprise for children at each and every stop,” says Scott Chambers, Senior Vice President and General Manager, North America Media and Licensing, Sesame Workshop. “The tour complements Sesame Street’s kindness curriculum, which is woven throughout the new season.”

Attention all my Miami and Broward friends: The tour will be stopping at the Pem­broke Lakes Mall on Sat­ur­day, Jan­u­ary 21st between 11am and 4pm

Can you imagine your preschoolers excitement when they their favorite characters in real life? It would make their day and they will learn some kindness along the way. Let's face it, the world could use a little more kindness and who better to teach kindness to than to children!

For more information about the Sesame Street: K is for Kindness Tour coming to South Florida, click here

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Workin' It Wednesday: 2017 Goals

I love fun posts and I love me a good link up. One of my favorite bloggers, Shay from Mix and Match Mama, posted up a new link-up today and I am thrilled to be joining in! This new monthly linkup is called Workin'It Wednesdays and it's all about how you are workin' it in life. This month's topic is 2017 goals and now that we are a few weeks into the new year, I have finally settled on my goals for 2017. Notice, I typed goals and not resolutions. I work better with the word goals.

Goal #1: Do more of what makes me happy!
This goal is very important to me. It has taken me a long time to realize that I need to be #1 before I can do anything for anyone else. I have decided to do more of what makes me happy. Like right now, I am not having dinner because I don't want dinner. I am sitting here, blogging, while my kids watch TV in the living room and I am munching on a plate of strawberries, chocolate and cheese. I am in heaven right now. I have spent my entire life working hard to make sure others are happy and I have neglected myself so yes, I will be a little selfish this year.

Goal #2: Grow my blog and YouTube Channel
I always make this a resolution and it doesn't work. I start the year strong and always slack by mid-March. This year is different. I have sat down and planned my growth. I have signed up for courses to learn all I can about blogging. I am asking other bloggers for advice and I am just sitting down to write. I am intentionally making time to blog. This blog provides my share of the income for my family's needs so it's important for it to grow so more opportunities come my way! We also have a family YouTube channel that has been seriously neglected. Once again, we were all gung-ho about it in the beginning and then the joy fizzled out. I do needs lots of help with filming and YouTube so that one will take time to conquer.

Goal #3: Get another car
We have been a one-car family for years. We did for financial and to be more green but the time has come for us to become a two car family. I might not get a brand new car but a brand new to us car is perfect. We need a car with a little more space and that's a little more reliable. Now, adding another car means taking on a car payment, which means at least another $400 a month to add to our budget so we need to really put thought into this goal.

Goal #4: Have a wedding
As many of you who follow me on social media know, I recently got engaged. I've been waiting a long time to get engaged and I am honestly enjoying my newly engaged status. Now, we do already have kids and have been together for 5 years but I don't care, I want a wedding. I don't want to just go down to the courthouse and sign some paperwork. I want an actual wedding with a dress and a a wedding party and a fun reception. It's always been a dream of mine to have a wedding and I will accomplish it this year, October 7, 2017 to be exact. I hope you guys are as excited as I am and please follow along with #TheCaleros2017!

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I have a lot on my plate this year. I also would like to lose 10lbs (you know, for the wedding!) and spend more time with my family. I would also love to go on a family vacation but I'm not sure how feasible that is with getting a new car and paying for a wedding!

Hope you will join us on Workin' It Wednesdays!


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